“If you let go a little, you will have peace. If you let go a lot you will have a lot of peace.”- Ajahn Cha
Letting go of anything that you have probably been attached to in so many ways, can be one of the hardest things in life. Let’s take for an instance, a good relationship, some relationships are particularly pernicious. We often develop relationships out of convenience, without considering the traits necessary to build a successful bond with another person—important traits like unwavering support, shared trust, and loving encouragement.
When a relationship is birthed out of proximity or chemistry alone, it is bound to fail. We need more than a person’s physical presence to maintain a meaningful connection, but we routinely keep people around simply because they’re already around. It’s easy to develop a connection with a co-worker, schoolmate, or someone who’s always been there—even when they’re not adding any real value to our lives. It’s even easier to stay in those relationships: old relationships are comfortable, and starting new relationships is difficult. New relationships require work—but anything worth holding on to does.
I believe we create and maintain problems because they give us a sense of identity, perhaps this explains why we often hold onto our pain far beyond its ability to serve us. We replay past mistakes over and over again. We cling to frustration and worry about the future, as if the act of fixation somehow gives us power. There will never be a time life is simple, there will always be time to practice accepting that.
Every moment is a chance to let go and be peaceful. Make your own happiness, here are some way to get started:
Change your perceptions: See the root cause as a blessing in disguise
Cry it all out: it is okay to cry, crying away your negative feelings releases
Focus: your energy on something you can
Engage: in a physical activity: exercise decreases stress
Written by Jolene Tshakane