Faking emotions is actually a true mark disrespect to another human being. When you fake an emotion trying to not hurt their feelings, you actually make someone feel like they were not worthy of the truth. You make them fell as though they did not deserve to know the reality, and that after they served their purpose of entertainment in your life, you set an expiry date on the relationship.
I am not trying to advocate that every relation is meant to see a happy ending, but the moment you realise that the expectation bar between you and your partner is not equal, you need to either change or end things with them.
Emotions have a way of being reflected sooner or later, and there is no way in hell that your partner won’t realize that the spark between the two of you is lost. If you think that pretending to be in love with them will result in no bad blood, then you are mistaken. Once it’s over, you will forever be the ex who faked even the genuine parts of you will lose all their meaning and evaporate.
No one wants the silent listener to their ranting, they want someone who talks, not merely nods and speaks. No one wants to deal with a girl who wears makeup by the kilo, even if when she sleeps, or a guy who dresses to kill even if when he is around the house, alone. We are humans, we are flawed. We want someone to love us, as broken and as flawed as we are, because we want to love others in the same way. We don’t want a motivational speaker for a partner, who tells us that life is all roses. We want a human being who tells us to screw the worries, opens a can of beer for us, brings in the pizza and tells us that why not existing for the world for one day, is actually great for us.
The next time you are tempted to fake or to pretend to have the feelings which you don’t, please stop yourself from creating a mess that you won’t be able to clean later. Please treat someone in the way you want to be treated, be hard with the truth; no matter how bitter it is, because they will thank you later. Be the person that was honest and broke someone’s heart, rather than being the asshole that got them flowers loaded with pricks that left them with scars that won’t heal later.
Written by Jolene Tshakane
“I do what I do because I believe in capturing moments and creating a legacy of memories. Pictures speak to me because they portray my mood and character. In my journey as a creative I’ve learnt that people lose a lot of time trying to be what they are not, at the expense of being themselves. One should never neglect what they can be. To all up and coming creatives remember to be original, bring something new to the table and don’t always follow trends.”
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How great were we in the dark? When all our deepest thoughts were myths never meant for the scorching light. When you were a part-time companion for lonely days, hero for the gloomy ones
You and I in there dark were the best story In greyscale thickened frames Our bodies cocooned from the horror that loomed outside our walls We were safe, in the dark, ‘fore all the love became too much to bare Too much to hold. Before the flames gathered around us
My heart mourns the loss of a soul still wandering about the earth Who knew missing someone alive would torture my sanity this much? Who knew I’d be holding my phone over this page as I drip the last of my might for a figure no longer mine?
In the dark, in our dark, my soul saw light greater than our horizon, danced wildly, fallen walls and retired guards. In the dark, I had no fear of pain for I believed in make-believe My obsession with fairy-tales fostered in me wishes of ever after, wishes not granted
In our dark, I had you, daylight cracked our façade Until you faded with the little sun you brought.
Written by Maira Wolfe
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Levoy Dlamini from Paragon Art set out to add a new dimension to his Contemporary African art by incorporating different mediums into his art works. His portrait of Dr Phillip Thabane, Africa’s greatest musician is a fusion of pen on canvas and instillation. He explains how his craftsmanship has evolved in his journey. “I decided to add something to the portrait that would be significant to the man, to basically give It more depth, hence the guitar strings. With the portrait of Nelson Mandela I just basically wanted to add more depth and texture to the decorated man that he is, so I added an instillation of a shirt made from African print fabric.”
We will be on the lookout for this young upcoming talented artist to see how he will further innovate to tell a story through his craft.
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Little things matter.
Allow me to introduce you to APPRECIATION. According to dictionary.com, the root word appreciate has multiple meaning: to be grateful and thankful for, to value or regard highly or to rise in value. I could stop the article here because the definitions really speak for themselves. However, allow me to further elaborate in order to ensure stress the importance of the concept.
“The deepest principle of human nature is a craving to be appreciated.” If we are honest with ourselves, we all want and need to feel valued for who we are and recognized for our contributions and accomplishments. It is important for us to know that we have made a difference in someone’s life.
I think as an individual, it is very important that we acknowledge and appreciate the effort that one had to take to make you happy. If a person takes the time to express their heart-felt appreciation for something we have done, it boosts our spirit, passion and purpose. It builds our self-confidence, self-esteem and entire self-image. It gives us energy and motivation to work harder and do more. Appreciation shows people that they are significant, it makes them feel that they are valued and their accomplishments do me something to someone. I was once told to stop investing my time and mental capacity in relationships where it is not appreciated.
Your life experience is the sum of your time and the relationships you have. You are given a certain amount of time on earth and it’s up to you to make the most of it. You are also given a number of relationships throughout the course of your life to navigate. The quicker you can identify the healthy relationships, the more positive your life experiences will be. From this day forward, vow to only allow people who truly appreciate you into the intimate space of your life. They appreciate who you are. They appreciate your dreams. They appreciate who you are without your title, status or money.
Don’t forget the simple little things we can do on a daily basis to let people know they are appreciated. For every handwritten thank you note I write, I probably also send 30 emails thanking people for the little things they’ve done for me. Things that you appreciate will make your life much happier over the long-term than things that don’t.
Written by Jolene Tshakane.
At first I thought I understood what people meant when they said that behaviour is only sustained in an environment which is not changing. Knowing this truth I thought it would allow me to better direct my attention towards the ideal world where we are in the process of creating. For a few months, I observed human behaviour and moulded myself in a way that created a pattern I would follow until utopia was created but little did I know that utopia can’t be created in a vacuum. Things started to change in a way I could not explain; I just assigned blame to those who were around me but the matter of fact was as soon as my circle grew bigger my behaviour had to change to sustain my ‘new’ environment.
However I did not account for my new behaviour which only resulted in me experiencing chaos physically, mentally, and emotionally, since I did not create a pattern that accommodated my new space. Our environments are important, also we should realise that their forever changing and if we cannot change with them the only thing that can arise is chaos or a state of stagnant that we cannot explain just assign blame. Water is a perfect metaphor for how we should carry ourselves as human beings, flow without resistance and adapt to the conditions of our environment.
Self-reflection is an important process, it allows us to make sense of the world, an account of the various factors that influence our behaviour, creating possibilities where we constantly evolve and innovate. Keep check of your environment and the people in that space; our behaviour with different kinds of people and also the distance between people in space plays a huge role in the types of behaviour we express. Let’s flow like water to create a utopia that we all dream of remembering life is what we make it.
Written by Lehlogonolo Modise