Little things matter.

Allow me to introduce you to APPRECIATION. According to, the root word appreciate has multiple meaning: to be grateful and thankful for, to value or regard highly or to rise in value. I could stop the article here because the definitions really speak for themselves. However, allow me to further elaborate in order to ensure stress the importance of the concept.

“The deepest principle of human nature is a craving to be appreciated.” If we are honest with ourselves, we all want and need to feel valued for who we are and recognized for our contributions and accomplishments. It is important for us to know that we have made a difference in someone’s life.

I think as an individual, it is very important that we acknowledge and appreciate the effort that one had to take to make you happy. If a person takes the time to express their heart-felt appreciation for something we have done, it boosts our spirit, passion and purpose. It builds our self-confidence, self-esteem and entire self-image. It gives us energy and motivation to work harder and do more. Appreciation shows people that they are significant, it makes them feel that they are valued and their accomplishments do me something to someone. I was once told to stop investing my time and mental capacity in relationships where it is not appreciated.

Your life experience is the sum of your time and the relationships you have. You are given a certain amount of time on earth and it’s up to you to make the most of it. You are also given a number of relationships throughout the course of your life to navigate. The quicker you can identify the healthy relationships, the more positive your life experiences will be. From this day forward, vow to only allow people who truly appreciate you into the intimate space of your life. They appreciate who you are. They appreciate your dreams. They appreciate who you are without your title, status or money.

Don’t forget the simple little things we can do on a daily basis to let people know they are appreciated. For every handwritten thank you note I write, I probably also send 30 emails thanking people for the little things they’ve done for me. Things that  you appreciate will make your life much happier over the long-term than things that don’t.

Written by Jolene Tshakane.