It’s easy to get emotionally attached to things. Sports teams, television characters, a favorite shirt, a really, really good burrito – boom! Suddenly you find yourself emotionally invested.
If we can develop sentiments for overpaid athletes who don’t know we exist, fiction people in a scripted world, inanimate objects and delicious foods, imagine what we’re capable of feeling for other human beings that we actually know in real-life.
Obviously everyone’s personality type is different. Some people develop feelings slowly, some quickly, others keep guard to avoid vulnerability; it all depends on the individual. One unfortunate guarantee is that when we officially have those undeniable thoughts, we’re susceptible to being destroyed emotionally. Psychologically manhandled, leaving us oblivious and confused, wounded significantly enough to leave permanent scars. Defenseless is a position we willingly take when we see fit. Getting emotionally invested in another person is a ‘hope for the best’ type of deal, and the worst-case scenario features a sensitive person’s ultimate kryptonite. The boogeyman of the dating world, the destroyer of hearts –the person who is able to change their mind about you on a whim.
For most of us this isn’t fathomable. Most people can’t be all in emotionally today at noon and all out by 8PM, but the switch yielding type can. They have a gift, or perhaps a curse, of being able to genuinely not care unexpectedly. Did they even care to begin with? It is hard to believe that the connection you thought you had was nothing more than an Oscar worthy performance by a wolf in sheep’s clothing, but it sure seems possible when you’re distraught at the fact that the only person you want in that moment will have nothing to do with you.
It makes you question yourself, what could you have possibly done wrong to make a person care so little, out of the blue? These troubling thoughts haunt you while you lie around miserable, waiting on a call, a text, or a knock at the door that would arrive to heal your aching heart. It never comes- at least not when you need it. The on and off switch type of people are emotional terrorists, but sometimes you’ve got to wonder if they have their own reasons.
I am not saying it’s excusable or even it is explainable, but we can’t always sum hurtful actions up to crazy or heartless, well, at least we shouldn’t. Maybe they experienced something that changed them for the worse. Perhaps they are the victims of past abandonment that created the icebox their heart currently resides in.
Sometimes we fight fire with fire, or in this case, coldness with coldness.
If you are not an on/off person, you have to be wary of them. Knowing that even though everything is fine right now, it could change in an instant is unnerving. We don’t want to be on an edge, watching what we say, telling our selves not to feel. As bad as it feels when that happens, it is important to remember in a great detail how horrible of an experience it was.
Then in the future; not only are you somewhat impervious to heartache, but also more considerate of others feelings regardless of the situation.
Written by Jolene Tshakane
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I disagree with the oxford dictionary which defines death as the end of life, yes at the physical level our bodies decompose to reunite with the universe. However, I find it limiting to our development and our overall human experience to see it in this way. We should not forget that our character never seizes to exist.
It lives in the heart of men, influencing how they see and interact with the world. Death should be one of the moments where we celebrate the deceased because they ‘leave us’ with a piece of their soul that gives us lifelong lessons that we don’t necessarily have to experience. This framework is not ignorant to the evils that we find in the world, but rather reminds us of the beauty that comes with life.
The ancient Yoruba people of Nigeria remind us of this beauty through their wooden figures which are humanistic to the core. That which has ‘Ewa’ never dies, it blesses men with strength to endure, wisdom to see the invisible and a character that brings law and order in society.
Yes, death might exist in the physical sense but we should remember that death only enters our lives when we stop moving forward and claiming our dreams.
Written by Lehlogonolo Modise.
We travelled out to Pretoria, Phelindaba for the Hood Hop Sessions: All Black Kingdom on the 7th April 2017. The Hood Hop Sessions happen every first friday every month, they serve as a platform to showcase the best up and coming hip hop artists.
Slabsta and Roxanne rocked the mic with their solo performances, and DJ S-Frequency was hot on the decks, with a set that kept the audience on its feet.
Watch Video -> AOJ live at Hood Hop Sessions
M Studio Community opened its doors on the 26th of March 2017 for the August House open studios and welcomed in many art lovers and enthusiasts. M Studio Community is the home of the talented artists and creatives such as Michael Selekane, Azael Langa, Neo Mahlangu, Victor Kuster, SNV and Artizens of Joburg.
The open studio exhibition featured a wide spectrum of artworks, tackling many genres and commenting on everything from socio-economic issues and politics. The open studios exhibition give the audience a chance to engage with the artists in their work environment and explore the artists intimate creation space. The open studios give insight to the audience to better understand the depths of perceiving art as a lifestyle as opposed to a commodity which the M Studio Community artists embody.
M Studio was well received by the art community, making sales of a whopping 22 artworks.
We’re absolutely looking forward to the next open studio to see what M Studio Community has to offer next.