Having patience is the ability to tolerate waiting and delays without becoming frustrated or agitated.
Moreover, it is the ability to remain calm when facing difficulties and adversity. By controlling ones restlessness and emotions the patient person is able to effectively control their natural impulses that can often lead the astray.
In the modern era we live in a society where almost everything is immediately made available at our beckoning call, a perfect example is Google, when you instantly need answers to something you just search. If you want a quick bit to eat, just call your local pizza delivery place, or perhaps when you need an entertainment, you just have it a click away on your TV, mobile device or computer. Given how society has shaped our behaviour and expectations, it’s easy to see that patience for most people would be quite difficult to come by. Who needs to be patient when you pretty much can have everything you want or need at your fingertips?
Although this might be true at a convenience level, this is far from true on other levels where for instance our goals are involved, or when dealing with other people. In such instances patience is absolutely paramount, however for the most part, because we live in a convenience society, most people simply don’t have of it, and that is why they struggle. I actually feel like patience is an absolute requirement for the attainment of any goal, because some things simply can’t be rushed or hurried. They need your thought and attention to detail to bring to fruition.
Moreover, some things just take time and effort on your part; they require a long term commitment.
Having said that, patience isn’t about sitting idle waiting for patience to happen that is not patience, but rather procrastination
Written by Jeanette Tshakane
Photo by Kegobella
Sizwe Mbokazi also known as J.Eson is an emerging Hip hop artist from Nongoma (Kwa-Zulu Natal), he gets to tell us about how his journey has been being an “unknown artist” and how his writing skills has shaped up his life and music career.
Being an unknown artist:
“I would say it’s not a difficult thing to be an unknown artist if I trust my artistry, so far I can’t say I’m an unknown artist looking at the work I’ve released to the public. There is a lot of work I haven’t released yet of which is a challenge I have to win.
Being a full-time student and an independent artist has been a great challenge, while trying to focus on my artistry I came to a decision that I’d rather struggle for my creativity and the love I have for this industry, so I’m not really unknown, I just have to show myself to the people”.
“My writing skills have been helping me since high school where I started writing rhymes. In Grade 9 I became a better person that every time I felt like expressing my imagination I’d just jot them down and that’s how I lived in my hometown.
When I moved to a college, I got exposed to a lot of international and urban artists I got motivated a lot and I kept writing continuously till I saw that I can actually do better. I’ve been getting compliments about my songs and writing skills but I just wanted more than that, to live the life of being an artistic person who can’t lose creativity. It’s a life I enjoy, it’s a habit that I want to have as I age”.
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Queens of Poety is a Poetry & Picnic event hosted by Artizens of Joburg.
This event aims to celebrate female poets in a picnic setting, while giving them a platform to express their writing skills and engage with the audience followed by a QnA. This event is also a platform for all attendants, not only to socialize but to network and collaborate. Selected various artists will also be gracing the stage with their performances throughout the event to honour the Queens of Poetry.
Date: 23 September 2017
Venue: 13 Rhodes Avenue, Parktown West.
Time: 12h00 – 20h00
Entrance: R 20 (with donations)
R 30 (without donations)
R 50 (Coolerbox)
Please bring clothing donations for children between the ages of 4 – 14 for the Pro Youth Foundation.
I am the type of person who likes to take simple conversation into consideration. I recently met up with an old friend over luncheon and we started catching up. The conversation started with “how have you been?” to “where is your man?” all she could say is I don’t do commitments, I am in love with a guy who is not here to stay. She went on with the conversation on how they met and so forth. Along our conversation, I got to realize that, while the guy cannot give her promises of “happily ever after,” every minute they spend together is filled with depth and shared vulnerability, perhaps with a good dose of laughter, tears and silliness.
In observing everything she has been saying, a question has been spinning in my mind. How long will she stay in a relationship that has no future? It is more like wasting your time… and in my search for the answer, this is what I’ve discovered to be true for myself. To love is one thing, to be in a relationship is another, they are two separate things. When we feel the warm sensation of love in our hearts, that cosy feelings of a deep connection to all things, of being wide open and touched by life, we sometimes forget that we are the one who created those feelings. That feelings of love is generated from within us.
We human beings have been blessed with the divine capacity to love everyone and everything, so that we can requisitely discern whom to partner with in a relationship. That we love someone, does not necessarily mean that it is healthy or beneficial for us both to be in a relationship. That it works for us to be together now, does not necessarily mean it’ll work for us to be together forever. The bilateral talks with my old friend got me into new life perspective, the epiphany comes when I realize that there is no need for any more shame, self-blame or berating in staying in a relationship that has no particular future. We stay in a relationship, until we choose not to. We are together, until we are not. Perhaps there are lessons this particular relationship offers. Perhaps this is exactly what we need to experience right now. We all choose what we want, not attaching meaning to the relationship status let her off the hook and grants her the spaciousness to just be. A relationship’s success is not defined by its length. I also feel that we should enjoy moments with our partners, whilst they are there and choose to walk away when it occurs to us.
Written by Jeanette Tshakane
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